Couples coming to couples therapy cannot resolve infidelity issues of hurt and abandonment if one or both partners are continuing with affairs. To rebuild a marriage after infidelity, trust must be earned and that cannot happen if the affair continues. If you find yourself in an affair and wondering whether to choose your current partner or a new one; this is a good issue to take to individual therapy.

There also times during couples therapy when one or both of the partners may be referred to individual therapy if an underlying mental health problem is discovered and needs treatment. Referring one or both of the partners for individual treatment does not mean that couples therapy cannot continue. In severe cases where there has been abuse in the history of a partner that has not been addressed or a severe mental illness that has gone untreated; couples therapy may need suspension for a period of time.

I will work with both partners individually and separately at times as needed. This would not be considered individual therapy, simply information gathering for further understanding and solution building.

Some couples find that their problems begin to resolve fairly quickly in couples therapy and they may only need 6 to 8 sessions. Other couples, whose troubles have gone without being addressed for years, will take longer to resolve. You can expect minimally that the first and second session will be one week apart. Subsequent sessions are generally two weeks apart – giving time for change to occur. When a couple is in crisis sessions will be occur at least weekly.